Mom, You’re Doing Just Fine

Giving birth to a child makes you a mother. But just giving birth does not make you a mom. What does it take to be a mom? Not a mother, but a mom. A mom is not defined by a woman and her child. Moms come in a beautiful array of people who love their children, or who have been gifted with their children’s pets, which makes life so much sweeter.

Moms are people who have a special place in their hearts and souls for another being. That part in their heart that always has children or animals on their mind. A mom is always thinking and loving another. The part in their heart that is willing to sacrifice sleep, time, resources, and strength for the ones who are so precious to them. Moms carry in their souls the weight of their children’s emotional and mental health.

A mom understands that her life is not her own. Although a healthy mom will not neglect her health for anything else, she understands where her priorities lie. A mom’s children will know they are loved beyond measure without words. It’s all you do that changes your child’s life and helps create in them what they are becoming. That is your gift; your superpower.

Stop worrying that you’re not getting it right. Our lives are created by experiences and moments. We learn as we go, and we learn as they grow. We have sleepless nights, frozen dinners, sick kids, stained clothes, dirty laundry, messy rooms, late appointments, and the list goes on. And, you know what? It’s all okay. You’re doing just fine. Above and beyond all that you get done and what you don’t get done is being there and just loving the little beings you’ve been given. For all those things you feel you’re failing, there are so many more things that you’re slaying and getting so right.

We get so busy at times that we lose sight of how our children or pets look to us for help as they develop into who they are becoming. We are a teacher, spiritual guide, medicine man, the magician, a baker, a wizard, the star-guide, the designer, trainer, a fighter, a healer, a therapist, a musician, a dreamer, a writer, a traveler, an artist, a cook, the CEO, a banker, and a taxi driver. You were gifted with these titles the day you became a mom.

You know your family and how to guide them. What you don’t know, you learn as you go. Your family may function best as a tight ship, while others work best as a pirate ship. Or, maybe you’re more like the Love Boat. As the captain, no one knows the crew like you, and you know where and how to sail.

There is no perfect mom. We would have no good mom stories to tell our kids if we did. We’re all a work in progress. I know you worry, it’s what moms do. But you are truly a rock star. If you need to take a moment and lock yourself in the bathroom and eat chocolate, then lock that door! Need a pint of ice cream in the closet? You get that pint and enjoy that duo, Ben & Jerry. If you need to take a time-out and cry in the SUV, get the soft, lotion Kleenex. How about a glass of wine under your desk? Don’t you dare feel guilty, my dear. Every rock star needs to let it all out. That’s why we have heavy metal.

You are more than a housekeeper and a mother. You are a MOM! You look at all you got, and you own it with all your might. How blessed are you to have the universe give you the most precious things on earth to care for? You, most glorious being, you rule the world, and you are the world to those you guide.

Have the most wonderful Mother’s Super Star Day ever (and wear the rock star boots!).

Jessie Rex Services, LLC

@jrexusa